Literary Rites Of Passage

I bought Puddin’ some summer reading books for a graduation present this week. Yes, books. I’m on a simplify and add more value to our lives kick, and expensive gadget presents are out – books are in. More on that later.

This week, in addition to all the festive graduation stuff, they also watched “THE VIDEO” – yes, that video. The one where girls watch a different one than the boys.

So one obvious choice was this one…

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I’ve actually been a little surprised “Are You There God, It’s Me Margaret” has not come up along the way  because it was the must read book of my 5th grade experience.  But I’ve found that Judy Blume (at least our school) has become a casualty of Harry Potter, Wimpy Kid, and 39 Clues. If it’s not a series that Scholastic can push at the book fair then it doesn’t get attention.  Judy’s must read books from my childhood have sadly been overshadowed and over looked.

I’m on a mission to change that and to introduce her The Mother of the Young Adult Literary Genre. Because let’s face it – without Judy, there would be no John Green, no Sarah Dessen, no Cecily von Zeigesar, no Stephanie Meyer.

So we’ll start with Margaret. And after that will move on to Deenie, and Iggie, and Sally J .. 

And we’ll steer clear of “Forever” for a few years.. so she won’t pass a dog-eared copy around her 6th grade class like I did. LOL  (see what happens when mom’s don’t read)

I’d love to see Scholastic do a “Throw Back” themed book fair and feature some of the best loved YA books from the last 30 or 40 years instead of new stuff – wouldn’t that awesome!?!

I mean I’m sure that there were awesome YA novels published in the 80s and 90s that I never heard of since by then I was in high school and college and that whole internet thing hadn’t really caught on yet. But whatever those books are, they are sitting dusty on some library self somewhere, unknown to these kids who only get pushed the latest and greatest it-must-be-a-three-part-series-whether-the-story-holds-up-that-long-or-not from the publishers. (Insert publishers just care about profits these days rant)  I’m looking at you Divergent series, I’m looking at you.

Seriously – when was the last time you saw “A Wrinkle In Time” featured at the book fair? That book alone hooked me on Sci-Fi for years to come. That book changed me in ways only a great book can. It set me on a path of interests that I would never have followed other wise, it made me like science and math and effected choices I made about education and professions.  And let’s face it, as entertaining as Vampire Boarding School Series are – and I admit they are… they just don’t have that kind of effect.

So help me out, what other awesome books for middle-schoolers came out in the 80s and 90s that I don’t know about ..what are some can’t miss it books from the last 30 years that a soon to be 6th grader should be reading?

All Field Trips lead up to this…

The 5th grade field trip to Disney is a rite of passage here in Florida (it happens again as a senior but that is an entirely different story)

It was an amazing day. Seeing these kids go to Disney with 200 of their classmates, children they have known in many cases since Kindergarten. Remembering them as kindergartners… this one cried, that one still ate paste. Now she is taller than me and he looks me in the eye when he speaks finally.

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Even as parents it felt like a milestone, a graduation of sorts.

We are the same parents who have been going to The Zoo and City Hall, and the Symphony for the last 6 years.  Sometimes we don’t even know each other’s name – we’re just Sally’s Mom, or Joey’s Dad. We know each other by hat and sunglasses and hairdo.  But we know each other – because 4 years ago you helped me find the lost kid in my group and 2 years ago I took your group when you started feeling bad in the heat. We are not friends but we know each other, we trust each other. We’ve looked out for each other, we’ve had each other’s back.

And this week we jumped off a cliff and took the whole crew to Disney and sat back and watched them run as pack, only supervising them from a distance and we talked and laughed and reminisced.  I don’t imagine that middle school field trips will be be the same. They won’t need us like they did in elementary school. This particular group of parents won’t come this way again.

So here’s to the Field Trip Parents for the Class of 2020. We made it through six years of Florida sun, community theatre, and snotty museum docents , we kept them alive, unscathed, and awake  through Alligator Farms, Zip Lines, and Peter and the Wolf.  

We always made it home with as many as we left with.

They were all good days. Salute.

I’ll see your Auditory Reading, and raise you a Math Cake

Last week Jen Hatmaker wrote maybe the most perfect Mom blog post ever  - if you haven’t read it, go now quickly.

Seriously right! We are all feeling it. And this year I got the added fun of having a 5th grader graduating from elementary school. Which I’ve learned involves all the emotional “When did these babies grow up so fast” heartbreak of a high schooler only you still have to drive them everywhere and chaperone field trips.

But each year I get to add one more level of #momfail to this whole season .. my youngest daughter’s birthday falls on the last week of school every year.

Yes, birthday. The last week of school. There is a reason she starts reminding me her birthday is coming up right after spring break.

So while my older daughter, October Girl has always gotten jumpy houses, bowling allies, & sleep overs.. whatever the age appropriate extravaganza is  June Girl gets to “have a few old friends over to swim, but it’s not a party.”

So we start each year inviting only a handful of her closer girlfriends and them inevitable 80% of the moms call me to explain why they cannot attend… dance recital, all star tournament, grandparents are here etc. and we end up with maybe two friends coming over to swim for a few hours on the Saturday before school is out.

This year I had the pleasure of THE DISNEY FIELD TRIP the day before our it’s-not-a-party day. So I left the house at 5:30 am to ride a bus to Disney  (trust me this will get it’s own post) that returned 14 and half hours later at 7:00pm  only to realize I had no cake, no snacks, no prep at all. Well crap. I ran to Publix and Target and grabbed a few things, and headed home. I had this under control, it was going to be okay.

When it came time to bring out the I-got-a-cake-but-is-still-not-a-birthday-party cake, I plopped the candle on top, lit that puppy, and headed out the back door. I walked out to the expected squeals and joy …except for the birthday girl herself. She is looking me with that special disappointment face.

“Mom, I’m 7 now, I’m turning 8″ – she points to the cake.

Where I look down and realize I have stuck the “7″ candle I was so proud of myself for having just two minutes early.

Crap. Crap. Crap. I can fix this!

I run back in, grab a standard run of the mill cake candle.. slam it in the cake.

That’s “7 + 1 Missy” I tell her – it’s a Math Cake.

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In typical Fancy Pants fashion, she quickly reversed the candles, declared herself 17 and asked for a car.

I. Am. Not. Kidding.

Best Mother’s Day Present Ever..

Even it came two days later this spontaneous note left to my from S regarding my parents upcoming visit for the remainder of the week has made my month! Maybe Year!

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It reads:

Dear Mommy

You need to give me a ponytail so Mur (Grandmother) can see my face and not have to pull on my hair because it hurts a lot when she tries to do it.

Complete and Utter Vindication for 92% of my childhood complaints prior to the age of 8!

Yes my darling I will protect you from your Grandmother and her Evil Hairbrush of Death! We girls gotta stick together.

Melanoma Scar Update

mohs surgery scar update 2 monthsI posted a picture of the original melanoma with the it’s not a pimple message on imgur.com today and so far it’s gotten over 100,000 views so that made me think I should post an update here as well.

This is what the scar is looking like these days – roughly 2 months after the surgery. No make-up and picture is straight from camera.  With my hair down you almost don’t even notice it. I am still putting Aquaphor on it daily and massaging it to keep the stiffness out.

I went back for a full body check a few weeks ago and had a ton of little spots frozen off and three spots biopsied. None of them came back as anything. One of them was on the bottom of my heel – I would never ever have thought to look there myself. But sure enough I have (had) several small freckles/moles on the bottom of my left heel.

So now I go back every three months and get a full body check again so they can look places I can’t see.

Also they are having me use vitamin C oil on my face and neck and chest every day – evidently it’s shown to remove pre-cancer cells before they really amount to anything.

In which I piss the Dr Who world off… I don’t like Clara

Yes I know, she’s cute as a button, and she had so much potential but 4 episodes in to her shows, I find myself disappointed. Maybe the build up was too big. Maybe the she had too much mystery around her and she can’t live up to it  - after all the Dr. usually just stumbles upon his new companions. Maybe the Ponds are just a hard act to follow. 

Who Knows…

But regardless she’s a bore. It’s not her fault really. They are barely giving her anything to say. But she’s not even really asking questions. She just so “along for the ride.”  She doesn’t seem to have that quality of amazement and adventure that defines a companion. Where is the wide eyed wonder? The amazement? Most of all she’s just not the same girl we saw in the Christmas Special.. she’s a watered down, oddly silent, boring version of that.

And what is up with the playing coy and hard to get? The Dr. has never had to pursue a companion before, they have always jumped at the chance to go with him, begged. She tells him to come back tomorrow and she’ll see. 

And these last two episodes… also just Mehh. Why were they in the submarine? Were we ever told that? At least last night we get an hint as to why they showed up at the castle but OMG that was the most boring episode ever. Like a weirdly misplaced Halloween episode that never got off the ground. I actually feel asleep during it.

I’m starting to worry that Moffat has peaked on this one. He’s had his best shows and best ideas and he’s now wading through a mess of left overs trying to make something of it. Or maybe he’s just so focused on the 50th anniversary thing that the current season is slightly neglected. Did it all get too big?

Who Knows? Time Will Tell.

 

Twitter #Music–Album art is important again

So Twitter #Music opened it’s gates today. My first impression, it’s like the scan button on your car radio. If you’re the kind of person who selects your station that way – Twitter music is your dream.

Honestly I’ve struggled with the whole internet music thing. I’ve tried Spotify and Pandora and whoever else and maybe it’s just me and signs of aging or something but I just can’t make them work. They never do what I expect which is replicate a really cool radio station on the internet.

So I just fall back to listening to my favorite radio station via their live stream. And lets face it, at my age that means I’m listening to the same stuff I’ve loved for the last 40 years and hearing very little “new” music.

My first real meaningful impression of Twitter #Music was Holy Crap – Twitter’s bringing Album Art back.  I mean seriously when was the last time you paid attention to album art?  Those of us who are old enough to remember record stores remember how much time we all spent flipping through albums judging them by their covers. And I cannot tell you how many hours I spent kicked back on my bed as a kid, listening and staring at the detail on cover art like Bat Out of Hell or News of the World. Cover Art used to be everything!

When CDs became the norm and they were smaller and wrapped up in 3 pounds of security plastic, it started to mean less. That was the beginning of just running in and buying what you came for. The last CD I think I bought because of the art was TMBG, Apollo 18 – in 199?.  Browsing was more work than fun at that point. We stopped killing time looking at albums. (We also started buying in Walmart and online and not in record stores  – and teenagers no longer “hangout” anywhere because their mommy’s are afraid they’ll be kidnapped but those are other balls of wax for another day)

Yes I know the art is there on itunes and Amazon too, but the way it’s shown, it doesn’t dominate, it competes with the page for time and real estate and interest. There is so much else going on, the album art shinks in comparison and you don’t notice it.  I cannot begin to tell you what the art of any album in the last 5 years looks like.

But today for the first time in almost 10 years.. I sat and looked and browsed music because of the Album Art today. Because my screen was full on nothing but this

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One thing is clear. Music Artist have gotten lazy about cover art. The reality is I stared at this screen and this is what I saw…

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I had never heard of Two Door Cinema Club  (remember the stuck in on an old Beach radio station thing)  but you better believe I clicked on that Album Cover  – it caught my eye, it interested me. The weird surreal image of Barbie doll legs hanging out of a mattress on a ceiling made me wonder about the music.

So I clicked and listened to the sample, and it was cool. So I clicked more and went on to purchase.

So if Twitter has anything to say about it  – Album Art is Important Again.

Graphic Artists of the world REJOICE!

Music Artists – Get over yourself  – a headshot  is not cover art. And seriously I cannot stress this enough, put some damn clothes on. Save that shit for Vanity Fair.

(I was going to say that’s what the free poster inside the album is for but you  know… no more albums)

And let’s face – no one is every going to do “naked” better than this little guy.

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Picture of the Day: Getting Her PhD in Little Sister

PIcture of the Day: Getting Her PhD in Little Sister

Yesterday as I’m talking to P about Homework, S walks in and gently touches her older sister the arm. She then smiles and informs us,

“Mr Adam just killed a snake and he let me touch it and I just touch you with the hand that touched it.”

Celebrity Crush: Mayim Bialik

Myim BialikI wish I were young enough to blame my affection for this actress on her 90s sitcom Blossom – but we all know I’m old enough to have “grown up” with Cindy Brady and Tracy Partridge instead. In fact I have absolutely nothing in common and no reason to identify with this really quite amazing woman – I’m not an actress, a neuroscientist, a vegan, Jewish, and I in fact am opposed to a lot of the Attachment Parenting lifestyle she promotes. So why do I just really really like this person? It’s simply – she’s just so authentic.

I think it must be that the first thing that leaps out at you when you see her, being herself and not in character, is how completely unique she is. She clearly marches to the beat of her own drummer and conforming to social norms is not her thing.  She has not followed the prescribed path to success but has in fact become incredible successful in both Hollywood and the world of science. I find that refreshing and inspiring.

I first became aware of the adult Mayim when she appeared as a subject on What Not To Wear. Honestly I was only vaguely aware of the whole Blossom thing since I didn’t do a lot of tweeny TV watching during my 20/30s.  When I saw her on WNTW, she had gone on to do other things and had pursued her academic interest and was now a neuroscientist and new mom. She as warm, friendly, and just open to the whole experience. Most of all it was clear she was very funny and very intelligent. Two things that always make me interested.

Later when she showed up as Amy in BBT, I thought how very perfect. She fits right in.

Since then I’ve read her blog, and followed her on Twitter.. and while I don’t agree with some of the things, like the AP stuff, I have enjoyed her as a writer for how she approaches topics with such kindness and warmth. Her intelligence and wit are always there but so is this just really sweet, caring personality. She quickly became one of those rare exceptions  –  a celebrity that I’d actually like to meet in real life. You feel like meeting her would only make you like her more, rather than being a huge disappointment.

So if you think of her as Blossom, or Amy – do yourself a favor dig a little deeper. There is so much more interesting go on there than just those two things.

Here’s a good place to start…y

 

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/secretlife/scientists/mayim-bialik/